Tiny Thursday Thought: Elves not quite Shelved

It is the 5th of December, and Archie, Sparkles and Ellie, Alison’s elves, have not arrived yet, the lazy sods. Gang, I have searched all the usual places, but I cannot put my hand on the troublesome trio. But I thought, it’s not a huge deal. After all, Alison is twelve now. She’s nearing the end of her first term in secondary school. She’s gone to two teenage discos, has experienced her first crush. Too old for elves, right? She caught me putting them in the blender a few years ago, with Lotso sitting on top, so the game was up; she knows it’s me. But as I write this very piece, I’ve just answered the door to a package ordered in a hurry, containing replacement elves. Honestly, the things we parents do for our (preteen) kids!

Just last night, when I was having the usual bedtime chats, Alison surprised me by asking whether the elves were coming back. Because she’s old enough, I told her the truth: that the original ones are missing, and that I ordered new ones to come and stay. To my surprise, she handed me her two foot ornamental gonk, winked at me, and said, “I wonder if this lad will turn magical and do something when we’re asleep tonight.” This morning, she found him sitting up in the bath, a handtowel wrapped around his waist. Surprise, surprise: I’m not too inventive at nearly eleven at night. Now, she didn’t exactly squeal in excitement, but there was definitely a hint of a smile on her face. Even though she’s now in secondary school, with a schoolbag heavier than an army tank, she’s still just my little girl looking for magic.

Like many parents of my generation, I got sucked into the Elf on the Shelf thing against my will. My friend introduced Archie to our home (if you’re reading this, thanks a bunch Kate!) when Alison was four. She’d already been introduced to an elf called Archie in playschool, a sort of mini-police officer dressed in red, that reported back to Santa on a daily basis. To be honest, the whole thing freaked me out a bit, not to mention the toy’s creepy little face. The whole idea behind it is to report behaviour to Santa. Oh, and apparently if you touch it, the elf loses its magic.

Neither of these things I have ever said to Alison. It was something she learned at playschool, and explained to me as I looked in wonder, pretending not to know where Archie had come from. Controversially, I decided that if Archie was going to be a fixture in our lives for at least the proceeding eight years, then I didn’t want him to be a tattle-tale to Santa. Alison was an only child, and she deserved to have an ally. Mum and Dad were always on her back; she didn’t need a creepy little doll watching her every move as well. She needed a confidant, someone she could have a laugh with.

As the years have flown by, the elves have been on so many adventures, from wallet robberies, to playing concerts to packed-out audiences and of course, Alison’s favourite – the winter wonderland, which is all our Christmas ornaments laid out on the coffee table and dusted with flour (always an absolute nightmare to clean up). I’m a writer, and this is one of the few times it’s paid off: Archie, Sparkles and Ellie write individual notes to Alison; each note has its own distinctive voice, and as she got older, Alison started to write back. I would argue that there is no greater writing exercise than trying to get into the quirky minds of imaginary elves, at eleven at night. And if she’d written to the fairies too, well, let’s say they were some of the few times I’d wished I was a coffee lover. I’m simultaneously proud and ashamed of the BS I’ve churned out over the years. Then, of course, you have to keep track of said BS, because although you can’t remember whether you said that Snowflake’s hair was red or blonde, Alison remembers. (Yet I can’t include these notes in a professional writing portfolio. The injustice!)

By the time Alison was nine or ten, I was starting to run out of ideas for the elves. Think about it – six years times twenty-five days meant 125 different elf antics, all in the confines of my house! Two years ago, in desperation, I turned to Facebook and followed the Elf Idea pages, hoping for new antics. Some of the ideas are so elaborate I wonder if these people have jobs. Nonetheless, I’m all for making Christmas magic – to a point, of course.

This morning, however, as I was scrolling through Facebook instead of doing my morning pages (an exercise, a bit like this blog, where you write pure crap in the hope of eventually hitting gold), I came across a post from a parent who wanted the elf to punish the child for not doing well in a school test! If that wasn’t fecked up enough, other parents offered suggestions! Now, of course on bad days, I’ve pointed out to Alison that Archie, Sparkles and Ellie are reporting back to Santa, but my husband and I decided that we were the parents, *we* needed to take sole responsibility for disciplining Ali if and when necessary. I did threaten her once or twice, but on those rare occasions the elves have written saying that although Alison was naughty, they knew that she was a good child, a human child who makes mistakes. A lesson that, over the years, the elves have been more successful at teaching her than we ever could have been. A reminder to a little girl who is sometimes too hard on herself, that she, too, can make mistakes and still be loved.

This may be a bit controversial, but the idea of a wiry doll dressed in red holding a kid to account for their behaviour doesn’t sit well with me. Santa is one thing, but he’s not a physical presence in your house, and isn’t that the beauty of it? Can any of us, child or adult, be good and “well-behaved” every hour of the day? I think not. So why has expecting this behaviour from children, especially at a time of the year when they’re exhausted from routines and early mornings, not to mention friendships and the chaos of afterschool sports and matches, become the norm?

Talking to a disappointed Alison last night made us both so emotional. Because the truth is she needs those elves. It’s a form of communication between us about things that might be difficult to express. A reminder that we all need a bit of silliness in our lives, that we deserve to be loved in our best and worst times. And if that’s what those silly red dolls represent to my daughter, then I’d better go and google enough antics for the next twenty years, obviously while staying away from those stupid Facebook groups.

My little girl might not be so little anymore, but she’s reminded me that the little things are still the big things. And I’m so excited to see the look on her face when she comes home today.

The Befriender

The Befriender.

 

Daniel was browned off, and rightly so. Here he was, at almost twenty years old, being manipulated by his mother. True, he had reason to be grateful: she could’ve gone to the gardai, and she didn’t. God knows, it had never made much difference before. He smiled as he remembered their neighbour, Sergeant Larry Byrne, coming down to have a ‘friendly chat’ with him, which amounted to ‘ah son, you don’t want to be hanging around with those hooligans now, do you?’ His words had seemed hollow from a man who had an extensive collection of pirated DVDs, confiscated from the Sunday morning Clara market.

I don’t know how she found out anyway, he thought as he pulled on his bootleg cut dark blue Jack-and-Jones jeans. That’s the problem with living somewhere as small as Clara: everyone knew everyone else’s business. He couldn’t even remember where he’d heard that his fourteen year old neighbour Tina Cullen was pregnant, or that Robbie Mills from The Green got done for growing weed in his room. The cornerstones of any tight-knit community, he thought with a pursed smile: sex and drugs. Minus the rock and roll though; there was rarely anything exciting going on. If he could afford it, he’d be out getting mouldy in the Bridge House in Tullamore every weekend. And he certainly wouldn’t be living with his mother.

‘Get down here now!’ came the irritable shout. Daniel lit a cigarette as he sauntered down the stairs, trudging down step by step. He’d hoped she’d calmed down by now. Like everyone in this one-horse town, he thought, all Sandra Reilly cared about was her reputation. Not that it was all that good to begin with: as long as he could remember, Sandra had always been a bit of a player. Daniel would often be left to have awkward morning after conversations, sometimes with strange men, other times with men he knew. The time he had to sit across the breakfast table from his German teacher, Mr O’Toole, was particularly traumatising.

‘What?’ he sulked as he slinked into the kitchen, blowing out smoke.

‘I’ve worked out your punishment,’ Sandra said with a knowing wink. On the table lay a Christmas table centrepiece, comprising of a log with some holly, mistletoe and other greenery stuck into it. ‘You’re going to take this to Mrs. O’Shea down the road.  She has some jobs that need doing. She’s been ever so lonely since that husband of hers died last year.’

‘You can piss off with yourself,’ he retorted, stubbing out his cigarette on the brown ashtray.

‘Fine,’ shrugged Sandra, picking up the phone. ‘I’ll just call the guards then and tell them that I know who broke into Mags Kennedy’s last night, will I? Because I am warning you son, I am this close to washing my hands of you. I won’t have the pigs on my doorstep every night.’

Daniel opened his mouth to say something, then slammed it shut, like a fish. ‘I’ll drop it into her, but then I’m going into town. It’s the twelve pubs tonight. We’re hitting Tullamore.’ He picked up the centrepiece, his wallet and his phone. ‘See you later, ma.’

‘Don’t bother. You’re not coming back until you stop treating this house like a doss house,’ Sandra screeched after him. ‘And don’t think Tom O’Connor is welcome here, neither.’

Now that he was out in the air, he could think more clearly about what he was going to do about his grim financial situation. He hated going to the job club, listening to that Barbara prattle on about interview techniques. He hadn’t heard back from any of the jobs he’d applied for, not even the packing job in Carroll’s meat factory, and the mere thought of sitting at a desk studying all day turned his brain to sludge. All he wanted to do now was throw in this centrepiece and go into town and get locked.

Mrs. O’Shea’s front garden was a tropical jungle of overgrown weeds. She was perceived to be like a modern day Mrs Dubose: cranky and slightly deranged. She hadn’t always been like that: Daniel still remembered how she used to visit his mam every Friday with a homemade apple tart in hand, how the pair of them used to hang out at his front pillar gossiping, how her garden once featured in the garden section of the Midland Tribune. He tentatively stepped over a pile of broken glass before ringing the doorbell, which he couldn’t hear echoing in her hallway.

He knocked loudly on the door, then, sensing an opportunity, cleared some of the decaying greenery from Mrs. O’Shea’s step with his dirty Nike runners and placed the centrepiece down. As he was straightening up, the front door rattled. For fuck’s sake, thought Daniel. No escape now.

‘Linda?’ said a fragile voice. Daniel tried to hide his shock. Mrs O’Shea had once been a stout woman, but now she was angular; her elbow bones almost ripped through her skin, her neck was sagging. Her chest was shapeless in her green and maroon cardigan. ‘Who are you?’

‘It’s Daniel, Mrs O’Shea. You know, Sandra’s boy? She just wanted me to drop…’

‘Come in, come in,’ interrupted Mrs O’Shea, ushering him inside. The hallway smelled musty; the once blue-papered hallway was now yellowed from years of tobacco smoke. There was a faint smell of urine, not fresh. ‘I thought you were Linda, you know,  my befriender? She comes every Wednesday. Lovely girl.’ She fumbled with a cigarette. ‘Excuse the mess. I don’t get visitors often.’

Daniel’s eyes wandered around the unkempt sitting room and noticed a small three foot Christmas tree in the corner, covered primarily in gold tinsel and the odd bauble. He predicted correctly, before he looked up, that there would be a gaudy foil decoration, brightly coloured, stretched from one end of the ceiling to the other. Even though he wasn’t there five minutes, it frightened him how desensitised he was already becoming to the smell, the gloom, the squalor.

‘I just wanted to drop this off,’ he tried again, handing over the centrepiece. ‘I didn’t mean to disturb you… in fact, I…’ He turned to the front door, adjusting his coat.

‘Actually, son,’ Mrs. O’Shea interjected, ‘there’s a light bulb in the kitchen that needs changing. Could you…please? I’ve been sitting in the dark for the last few nights. The spare bulbs are in the press over there.’ She pointed at a brown chipboard press above the kitchen counter, under which rested an enormous empty wine bottle, almost filled to the top with coins and notes.

Daniel nodded and retrieved the bulb, trying to stop himself from gagging with the smell. It smelled like decaying food, human excrement and dried sweat, all at once. Mrs. O’Shea flicked the switch on the kettle and took out two greasy looking cups from the press.

‘Do you take tea?’

‘No thanks,’ Daniel said, flicking the light switch. ‘There, that’s working now.’ He pushed the chair back under the table, pretending that it made the kitchen neater.

‘A cigarette at least? Don’t think that I don’t know what you young lads get up to!’ She wagged her finger at him. ‘Just till Linda comes, please. There’s been no-one here all day.’

‘Where’s your daughter?’ Daniel asked. He wished he hadn’t accepted the cigarette; he could taste the smell of the kitchen when he inhaled. He remembered Lucy from old: she used to babysit him on a Thursday night while his mother was in White’s. She had always been a bit of a suck-up; in fact, she stopped babysitting Daniel because she was convinced he was ‘the spawn of the devil.’

Mrs. O’Shea clinked the teaspoon loudly as she stirred the tea. ‘Oh,’ she said, and then a pause. ‘She doesn’t come to visit me anymore.’

Daniel smelled a rat. ‘What do you mean, she doesn’t visit anymore? I thought she only lived on the Arden Road?’

‘She does.’

‘Then how come? Because obviously, you could use…’ He stopped himself and took a sip out of his tea. He hadn’t seen the woman in years, he had no right to comment on her living conditions.

Mrs O’Shea lit a cigarette, letting out a braying cough as she did. ‘It’s not her fault,’ she said, gazing out the window. ‘It’s mine. I treated her badly… I…’ Another cough, hacking this time. ‘I didn’t mean to…I don’t know what got into me. But the bills, they just piled up so suddenly and, well… I figured she owed me, you know? She moved off to live in her swanky house in Tullamore and I couldn’t afford to… so…’ She shrugged.

‘Oh right,’ said Daniel. He didn’t know what else to say.

‘That’s what that bottle is for, you know. I will pay her back one day before I die, if it kills me. I haven’t bought oil in an age, but this cardigan does just as well. And my stomach can’t handle much more than toast now anyway.’ Another cough. ‘I don’t go around thinking the world owes me something.’ Daniel straightened immediately. Was this a dig at him?

His phone vibrated in his pocket: a message from Vinnie. He and Tom couldn’t afford to go drinking in Tullamore, after all. Or as Vinnie so eloquently put it, ‘we’re fucking broke.’

‘Anyway, I really must head on, so…’ He stood up and ambled towards the hall.

Mrs O’Shea grabbed his arm with her cold, bony hand. ‘Thank you for calling in to see me today. It was so good to have a young’un to talk to.’ When she released it, his arm still tingled. ‘I know I’ve no right to ask, but I don’t suppose you’d call in sometime over Christmas, you and your ma? I’ve lovely mince pies in the freezer.’

‘Of course.’ He moved up the hallway, anxious to embrace the cleanness of the cold December air.

He walked briskly towards the Green, lighting a cigarette mid-walk. When he was a safe distance from Mrs O’Shea’s, he whipped the phone out of his pocket and, holding the cigarette in between his thick lips, smiled as he texted Vinnie back:

‘I know where you can get the money. Meet at mine in ten minutes.’

It’s only fair, he thought. An eye for an eye.